{"id":1054,"date":"2009-10-15T10:31:33","date_gmt":"2009-10-15T17:31:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/x.jimanddoni.com\/?p=1054"},"modified":"2009-10-15T10:34:37","modified_gmt":"2009-10-15T17:34:37","slug":"keepin-my-cool","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/?p=1054","title":{"rendered":"Keepin’ My Cool"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I am angry about something so I am posting a beautiful calming sunset picture to quiet me down.?? \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Today I was shopping with the kids (yes yet another shopping incident this week).?? There was an older woman handing out sample gummy bear cups and of course the kids wanted to stop.?? She did the usual – gave the four of us the “look over” mentally calculating.?? Then she said something that shocked me out of my senses.?? She looked at Tanner then at me and says “So did ya get yourself a rent-a-kid today?<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

I smiled nicely and said softly “They are all mine<\/strong>.”?? Tanner smiled too and we walked away.?? I would love to tell you that I was kind about this because I am such a loving and meek person.?? That wasn’t the case.?? I was simply too stunned to know how to respond.?? I also feel a responsibility to handle these things wisely for the sake of my children who will mirror my emotions.<\/p>\n

As I walked through the store though I was fighting tears.?? I WAS SO FLIPPIN’ MAD that someone would single out my child like that and say right in front of him “this kid doesn’t belong”.?? INFURIATING.<\/p>\n

I am trying to be compassionate about this and realize that people are often pretty dumb and just say whatever pops into their head.?? I can confidently say the woman was not ill intended.?? She had already formed her conclusion that Tanner was not my child and didn’t see any harm in commenting on what was fact to her.?? For surely if she had ANY idea that Tanner WAS MINE, she would never have said such an idiotic thing!???? Doesn’t that comment just seriously take the cake?<\/p>\n

By the time I got through the store and was ready to order some lunch for the kids, I needed my mom.?? I quickly called her on my cell and told her when Tanner was out of hearing what happened.?? She suggested I walk my cart back over to the woman and run it over her toes.?? Tempting.<\/p>\n

Jim was even more angry than mom.?? I get my second boundaries lecture of the week.?? Once again, my husband wanted to know why I didn’t defend my turf and tell the woman she was WILDLY out of line by saying such a thing.?? I told Jim that I felt it likely that Tanner didn’t really get what she was saying so it was better that I downplayed it in front of him.?? Jim was concerned that if Tanner DID know what she was saying, that maybe Tanner needed me to tell the woman that we didn’t appreciate such a comment.?? I asked him what he would have done standing there with our children and he defends that he would have given her a calm but direct “you are way over the line” talking to.?? Knowing Jim, that is exactly what he would have done.?? Should I have??? I don’t know.?? It’s a toughie because I don’t want to be overly harsh with people when then are not intending to cause harm.?? On the other hand, at some level, my children may need me to take a stand for them and let others know that not only are these precious gifts MINE MINE MINE (I am singing Tori’s MINE song), but that any comment that suggests otherwise is downright offensive.<\/p>\n

And isn’t it crazy that we adopted a child of ANOTHER RACE and no one ever comments on that?????????? Tanner gets way more comments post Tori’s adoption because the differences in our genetic makeup get even more attention with a red head and a hispanic baby but instead of singeling out Tori – they single out Tanner.?? I, naturally, want the world to leave all of us alone on this topic and I wouldn’t like comments being made to Tori any better but I have to admit to this added irony being a bit comical all things considered.<\/p>\n

I am so tired today and my body aching so much (FMS\/CFS flare up stuff I think), that I can’t approach this topic with a level head.<\/p>\n

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Haven’t had time to process anything so I thought I would just share the sunset picture.?? I took this the other night.???? I was in my car preparing to leave and made myself get back out to take the shot.?? I knew I would regret it if I didn’t.?? As I stood there looking at the sky, I didn’t see just the obvious beauty before me.?? I saw what it was going to look like when I was done with it.?? :)?? I love that God lets me join in on his artwork by adding my own touches.?? Dr. Blackaby says “Watch where God is moving and join Him there”.?? I think I try to do that digitally sometimes hee hee.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I am angry about something so I am posting a beautiful calming sunset picture to quiet me down.?? \ud83d\ude42 Today I was shopping with the kids (yes yet another shopping incident this week).?? There was an older woman handing out sample gummy bear cups and of course the kids wanted to stop.?? She did the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[55],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1054","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mamas-diaries"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1054","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1054"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1054\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1054"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1054"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1054"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}