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My friend Kristi and I were talking about “good reads” lately and she loaned me “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” by Dr. Laura.?? She said she had read it several times and thought it was an awesome book.???? I read her copy and I loved it as well.?? I am usually a Dr. Laura fan.?? Not always but often.?? I used to listen to her on my way home from work all the time and sometimes I was cheering her on and sometimes I was griping at her for her harshness and arrogance.?? The root of our faith is the same – Judaism.?? For that reason, Dr. Laura and I agree on much.?? Because I believe the Messiah has come though and embrace the New Covenant along with the Old, I live under a lot more grace than Dr. Laura does :).?? I wish she had Jesus.<\/p>\n
While this book has a few crude words that I could have done without, the heart of the message is very good.?? The book teaches that men in general??are simple creatures.?? NOT simple minded!????Just having fairly simple needs.?? They??aren’t as emotionally complicated as women.????Because of this,??most men have a top 3 that is pretty common that when fulfilled, you keep a pretty happy man.?? I quizzed Jim on this to see if Dr. Laura was correct.?? I asked him what his top 3 basic needs were (in respect to marriage) and he was pretty much spot on with Dr. Laura.????What are those three needs??? I am not quoting her but essentially 1. Respect 2. Intimacy 3.?? Food.?? Jim actually answered “Respect, Love, and Sex” but I know first hand that “Food” should have been one of his top 3.?? I have noticed over the years that if I don’t have a dinner plan, OR if I ask him what he wants instead of making decisions, it’s the surest way to have a grumpy man on my hands.?? My grandmother used to throw an onion in the skillet when my grandfather got home just so it smelled like she had it already worked out LOL.?? I do think that most men come in the door with a brighter smile when they smell their dinner.?? Most of us women wish this wasn’t true because cooking isn’t our favorite past time – but alas…it is.?? (Lucky for me I actually do like cooking most days so it isn’t too bad).??<\/p>\n
Dr. Laura also addresses protector\/conqueror tendencies.?? This was relevant to me because my dad has taught on that for years.?? In fact, the majority of this book was a compilation of what my parents have taught and modeled for me the last 34 years.?? My mother should have been the model for the front cover – no kidding.?? She is a tough act to follow.?? I think the reason I loved the book so much is because I have seen the principles applied in my parents marriage and they are still two little love birds….over 30 years, 5 kids, and 8 grandkids later.?? That says something.<\/p>\n