{"id":583,"date":"2007-11-12T15:04:47","date_gmt":"2007-11-12T22:04:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/x.jimanddoni.com\/?p=583"},"modified":"2007-11-12T15:06:08","modified_gmt":"2007-11-12T22:06:08","slug":"i-feel-pregnant","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/?p=583","title":{"rendered":"I Feel Pregnant"},"content":{"rendered":"

??\"Bounce\"<\/a>??That catch your attention??? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Okay here is a better way to phrase it “We are EXPECTING<\/strong>!”?? Okay – so NO<\/strong> I am not “literally” pregnant but our third child just MIGHT<\/strong> be conceived already and if he or she is, than it is perfectly fair for me to say we are expecting – don’t you think?<\/p>\n

IT’S OFFICIAL??- WE ARE GOING BACK INTO THE ADOPTION MATCH BOOK THIS WEEK!?? YIPPPPPEEEE!!!!!!!<\/strong><\/p>\n

I just got my??”Dear Birthparent” letter finished this morning and I need to get it copied and then take it??to our agency and we are all set!??<\/p>\n

Questions You May Have:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.????Do we want a boy or a girl?<\/p>\n

Don’t care.?? We will be happy with either (or both LOL)<\/p>\n

2.?? Are we adopting an infant?<\/p>\n

Yes.?? Because we are going through a private agency, we will be adopting an infant.?? Usually older babies or children go through Fost\/Adopt programs and Jim and I do not want to participate in a Fost\/Adopt because the risk is too high for reclaim.?? I am hoping to be in a situation where the birthparent is choosing to sever her rights as opposed to the state severing them.?? I think there is more risk involved when someone else makes that decision.?? The only way a birthparent could later attempt to reclaim if they signed their own relinquishment voluntarily is if they could prove there were coerced into signing (which is very uncommon and difficult to prove as well).<\/p>\n

2.?? Do we want another open adoption?<\/p>\n

We want what God wants but??have loved having such a wonderful relationship with Ty’s birthfamily.<\/p>\n

3.????How long will it take?<\/p>\n

The adoption agency typically says the average wait is 11 months but??that wasn’t the case with Ty and it CAN happen overnight.???? With Tanner, we were matched with??him within two months and??I had already been expecting for years and just didn’t know it.?? (He was frozen 3 years and four months before we transferred him).?? With Ty, we went into the matchbook in??July and Amanda actually conceived him in August.?? We were matched with him in December and he was born in January.?? Thankfully, Amanda chose us early in her pregnancy.?? Typically,??birthmom’s wait until the later half of the pregnancy which makes for a very short adoptive pregnancy.?? So…it could be over a year from now or it could be next week.?? You never know.<\/p>\n

4.?? Are the boys excited?<\/p>\n

Yes.?? :)?? They have been talking about another baby for awhile.??<\/p>\n

This may be the only time you read about this before you see a “He\/She is HERE” post.????Because my??blog is public and??therefore could be read by potential birthfamilies, I don’t want to talk??about specific situations on my website prematurely.???? I think I would prefer to wait until??the birthparents have relinquished all rights and baby is securely in our family before I talk about it in this forum.?? In AZ, birthmothers have to wait until the baby is 72 hours old before they can legally??relinquish.?? This relinquishment is permanent though.?? They don’t have??a 30 day window to change their mind like in some states.????This doesn’t mean they WILL relinquish at 3 days old but it means they can’t relinquish before then.?? Up until those relinquishments are signed, baby is not ours.?? Baby is theirs.?? As a result, I would need to protect their privacy.?? Therefore, I would expect that I won’t write about our baby here until he\/she is at LEAST 3 days old.?? Just a forewarning.?? If you get curious along the way though, feel free to ask in a more private setting and I would be happy to keep you updated.??<\/p>\n

I really do feel pregnant now!<\/p>\n

Here is a glimpse of our birthletter:<\/p>\n

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