You may love me but in truth…not like me.?? You may like me but in truth….not love me.?? Being greedy, I want both.?? I want??to be loved and liked.?? I have been thinking about the differences between these two this week reflecting on a conversation I had with Ty.?? He is sunshine to my soul.?? He speaks my love language.?? If you have never read Gary Chapman’s Love Language book, you really must.?? It is truly a MUST read.?? Understanding the love language of those you live with is so important.?? Jim’s primary love language is physical touch.?? Mine is affirmation.???? The boys are tougher to decipher but I think at this stage of life, Ty’s primary language is physical touch and Tanner’s is quality time.?? Jim and Tanner both have trouble speaking the love language of affirmation – they are not by nature expressors.?? Ty excels at it.?? Therefore, on any given day in our household, it is usually Ty that knows what to say to soothe mama’s soul.??<\/p>\n
I have had a hard week.?? Two different heart breaking things happened this week and I have needed a mental health break for the last two days.?? The boys and I will be decorating gingerbread cookies this afternoon – you know how comfort food cheers me up.?? (And a big thanks to our dear friends Matt and Amanda who knew to show up last night with Olive Garden and Dark Chocolate Peppermint Ice Cream on the night agenda – I needed that).<\/p>\n
Where am I going with this??? \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
The other night I was sitting on the couch watching television with Jim.?? Ty cuddled up in my lap and was playing his PSP.?? As I mentioned in an earlier post,??I tend to stare at my kids.?? This drives Tanner nuts and he often sits on the opposite side of the couch from me to enforce his six year old boundaries.?? He knows if he is sitting within arms distance that I won’t be able to resist touching him, snuggling him, kissing him….etc.?? Ty, however, enjoys this attention.<\/p>\n
This particular evening I just kept watching Ty.?? Every few minutes I would squeeze him,??kiss his head, caress his cheek, snuggle my face to his.?? Thankfully he tolerates this because I??simply can’t resist expressing my flood of love for my boys.?? After a bit, Ty looks up into my eyes and very seriously says “I like you too<\/strong>“.<\/p>\n I nearly cried.?? It was so precious.?? It was as if I had spoken volumes of love to him and he was responding to it but in fact, I had not said a word.?? Ty read my eyes though.?? He knew exactly what was on my heart.?? What I was expressing to him through my love looks and cuddles and kisses and he responded to it.<\/p>\n Later I was teasing my adorable husband and told him that he and Tanner could stand to learn a lesson or two from Ty.?? Jim said, “Doni you got to know that Ty just knows how to work you” :).?? I then said, “I don’t care!?? I like it!?? If he is working me, I love it but even if that is the case, he STILL can READ me.?? He knew exactly what I was non verbally saying to him and he responded to it like it was natural as breathing!”??<\/p>\n It also did not escape my attention that he said “I LIKE” you.?? That in and of itself was a treasure.?? We say “I love you” all the time but in this instance, Ty was talking about something else.?? He was not referring to the commitment of love we have for one another parent to child, he was simply saying “Ya mom – I know you like me as a person and I like you too”.?? How great is that????? Ty – you put mama’s heart in motion and I am so glad you are M I N E.<\/p>\n Baby Baby<\/strong><\/p>\n By Amy Grant??<\/p>\n Baby, baby Baby, baby Stop for a minute Baby, baby Baby, baby Stop for a minute Baby, baby Baby, baby Stop for a minute And ever since the day you put my heart in motion Baby, baby ??<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" You may love me but in truth…not like me.?? You may like me but in truth….not love me.?? Being greedy, I want both.?? I want??to be loved and liked.?? I have been thinking about the differences between these two this week reflecting on a conversation I had with Ty.?? He is sunshine to my soul.?? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[55],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-590","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mamas-diaries"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/590","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=590"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/590\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=590"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=590"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jimanddoni.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=590"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nI’m taken with the notion
\nTo love you with the sweetest of devotion.<\/p>\n
\nMy tender love will flow from
\nThe bluest sky to the deepest ocean.<\/p>\n
\nBaby, I’m so glad you’re mine, yeah
\nYou re mine.<\/p>\n
\nThe stars are shining for you
\nAnd just like me I’m sure that they adore you.<\/p>\n
\nGo walking through the forest
\nThe birds above are singing you a chorus.<\/p>\n
\nBaby, they’re so glad you’re mine, oh yeah
\nAnd ever since the day you put my heart in motion
\nBaby I realize that there’s just no getting over you.<\/p>\n
\nIn any kind of weather
\nI’m here for you always and forever.<\/p>\n
\nNo muscle man could sever
\nMy love for you is true and it will never<\/p>\n
\nBaby, I’m so glad you’re mine
\nAnd ever since the day you put my heart in motion
\nBaby I realize that there’s just no getting over you.<\/p>\n
\nBaby I realize that there’s just no getting over you.
\nOver you.<\/p>\n
\nAlways and forever
\nBaby I’m so glad that
\nHere for you baby
\nSo glad you’re mine
\nBaby I’m so glad that
\nWhen I think about you it makes me smile
\nBaby, baby be mine
\nBaby I’m so glad that
\nDon’t stop giving love
\nDint stop, no
\nBaby I’m so glad that you’re mine
\nBaby I’m so glad
\nBaby I’m so glad that
\nWhen I think about you it makes me smile.<\/p>\n